When you first get your cat it may not be the cuddly little ball of fur that you imagined it would be. You probably thought that it would be ready and willing to accept affection whenever you chose to give it. Some cats however, are very shy by nature, these are the ones that will hide and act scared of you if you look at them. Below are a couple of ideas that may help with the problem.
It is not unusual for a cat to be cautious and timed for the first couple of weeks or so in its new home. The more contact a cat has with humans the less timed it will be. Do not force the issue; instead give your cat a little space. Your kitten will probably approach you once he becomes sure of its new surroundings.
If you have a particular nervous cat, one way to gradually get a cat used to petting is to gently wrap your pet in a thick towel, to prevent it from scratching you, and gently stroke its head. Talk to your cat softly as you do so. Set aside a time each day to perform this bonding ritual and your shy cat may grow to trust you enough to stroke it without the towel, remember patience pays.
Bribery can often work wonders with nervous cats. Try offering a tempting healthy treat, if your cat is hungry enough to overcome its fear and stay still to eat its treat, stroke it gently, don’t make sudden movements! You may have to persevere, but often your pet will eventually accept and enjoy your petting.
Never lose patience, and remember that your nervous cat is not rejecting you, it is just an in built protective reaction to something that has given it cause to be wary of humans. Love and perseverance will often win the day, and you will be rewarded by your cat’s affection